Embracing our fear

Breaking out in apocalyptic panic and acting as if life has already ended or denying the danger and saying that the coronavirus is something invented by politicians to manipulate public opinion, are two extreme ways of defensive attitudes to face the imminent danger that is hard to define, hard to understand, to predict, to control.

Another option is to accept the fear without increasing it. This happens when we let ourselves be invaded by a feeling impotence. Embracing ourselves like we would embrace a scared baby who doesn’t know why it’s crying and that calms down when an adult, someone who knows that the only thing to do is calm the baby in order to figure out why it’s crying. The baby can only count on its cries, it can’t count on words or actions to let us know that it’s suffering. In this moment, sometimes even adults can’t put into words what scares them and makes them suffer. Recognizing, naming and accepting our specific fears to calm us and knowing that we can count on ourselves is the only thing that will give us, adults, a calm moment necessary to take the suitable measures (like we would do with the crying baby) to protect ourselves better now, in this uncertain situation that is very difficult and threatening.

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