I found four variables that are always present in the history of the upbringing of these people:
- They seem to have an extreme capacity of empathy
- They were exposed to very different, sometimes even contradictory, values and points of view (feelings, goals, ethics, esthetics, thoughts). They appreciated in the same high degree a bit of each and every one of those values or points of view.
- They know that their parents are “good people”, and they also know that they loved them deeply, but they feel that their parents don’t understand them and can’t help them to understand themselves either.
- Even though this condition is not as essential as A), B) and C) the presence of a meaningful death, or accident, or a threatening situation for the family, not necessarily for the child himself, is more common than in the childhood of other people.